Category: Dating and Relationships
how would you feel if your girl friend took your money to go to a dance with you a formal dance and she went with some one else that is what happened to me
I would not be happy at all.
Firstly it's with your money, the guy taking her should pay, not you. Secondly if she broke the date with you to go with someone else should raise some red flags.
I would feel an inexplicable bout of being single come over me, that is how I would feel.
Yep, no point saying she's your girlfriend. Let her go. It only gets worse if you don't.
yep; seems totally one-sided.
I'll take it as a time for a change of my relationship.
Raaj.
Agreed with others here, but I will add this:
the boundries of what is, and is not considered cheating in a relationship is something that really needs to be discussed up front. Some couples are OK with their partner going to a dance with someone else so long as it goes no further than being present there together and enjoying each other's company. Others are OK with just about anything as long as the other partner is also present. I would say the majority of people probably are not OK with this at all. Anyway, I'm sure you get the point. I'm not saying I excuse the girlfriend in this case, especially since it was your money, and she failed to talk to you about it first, or so it would seem from your post. But setting the boundries up front should help eliminate some confusion, and if any arises in the future, then you know it's time to leave.
A straight no!
no
Well, I agree with most people on here. Take a clue, young man: this isn't one time to be politically correct and sensitive. She may want to be equal with you, but equal rights means equal responsibilityes. Taking your money and spending it taking another guy out to a dance is beyond crazy. You're not sexist, piggish, insensitive or whatever other label they'll try and lay on you, for not accepting it. Were it me, I would count my losses, and make a hasty retreat. Ifg you say "Oh that's OK, you were having a female moment ..." over something like that you're just gonna send the message it's really OK.
All I will say is, if you're going to do it, do it like you mean it: don't back down because she starts to cry. I'm a man: I know. We're all-out wusses when it comes to seeing a girl cry. You just gotta be ready ahead of time, don't have to be mean about it but just be firm and make it stick.
It's fine with me as long as she pays for the bar tab I decide to run up when taking her sister out for a night on the town.
haha. good point. Bring some humor into it.